Loving the church like you love your wife?
Where would the church be if we loved it like we love our wives? I feel certain that we may already know the answer to that question.
You go hang out for a few minutes make an appearance, get a few minutes of intimacy and your good, feeling good and then maybe you through some money in the offering, and then struggle the rest of the week and watch your family struggle as a result.
In Ephesians it says “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.”
Ephesians 5:25-26 NLT
We are literally one person with our wives, one working mechanism, one soul, one heart.
Our family is truly a reflection of us as men, we hold that power, not to subdue and control our wives but to set the standard and presence of God in our homes, our children bare that reflection as well, it is a Christian mans honor to live this for his family, it sets a precedence of providence for your wife and children, one more time…men, we are responsible for setting a precedence of providence, your family is dependent upon your intimacy with Yahweh. As you grow in intimacy with him your family will grow with him as well…. and this is the Revolution that will change the current state of the world.
“He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body. As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5:27-33 NLT
“It’s toxic when we continue to pursue failed relationships, trying to fix our disfunction we grew up in. God’s love for you is stronger than the cycle that you think you’re trapped in.”
I was having a conversation with a friend this past week and she was telling us a miraculous story about how Yahweh revealed to her that she had been continually settling and trying to navigate impossible and destructive relationships simply because she had experiences in her past that had traumatized her as a child, I could relate because through something my pastor had said a few weeks earlier in a message had spoke to me and began to reveal some things that I had been struggling with along those lines as well…
My pastor said:
“One of the most destructive things you can do is chase after people that God is trying to remove from your life, If somebody wants to leave you, let them.”
-Pastor Mattie Montgomery
So in this revelation I began to realize that I had been chasing impossible and destructive friendships for decades just because my dad was an addict… I could never fix my dad so I have been trying to navigate these impossible friendships just because I wanted to fix something that was never resolved between me and my dad, Yahweh never meant for it to be this way, yes it is good to love the unlovable, it is good to forgive people over and over again but it is not good to invest you heart and soul and mind into something that Yahweh is showing you that is bad for you and trying to remove from your life, I’ve felt rejected so many times just because I didn’t want see that it was time to let someone go from my life and to be honest not one of these relationships ever benefited from me continuing to try to fix the person and trying to use God out of context to accomplish the task. In the long list of people that I held on to for too long they ended up cheating on their wife, continuing to be an alcoholic, never stopping drugs, never breaking out of whatever destructive cycle that they were trapped in or killing them selves, yes it’s all sad but true and as someone who is trying to live your faith and love these people and minister to them Yahweh knows when you are done and being sensitive in your intimacy with him in these endeavors is critical, because I have felt like a failure over and over when my time with someone was clearly up, and because of my feelings and sentiment I stuck around way too long, because Yahweh had already told me “you’ve done all you can do.”
Be mindful of relationships, especially the one you have with Yahweh, He’s always been there, He’s never let you down, trust his leadership in these relationships He wants to keep you safe, sure there will be heartbreak along the way, but listening to and knowing that Yahweh is looking out for your best interest and He is in control of the ministry surrounding those you care for and when Yahweh says your done it’s ok to be done. I have seen people redeemed, restored and healed and even gotten to be used by Yahweh to help people in this way, but it was by His way and His power, not because I chose to go where he hadn’t sent me or stay longer than I was supposed to.
“Wisdom has built her house; she has carved its seven columns. She has prepared a great banquet, mixed the wines, and set the table. She has sent her servants to invite everyone to come. She calls out from the heights overlooking the city. “Come in with me,” she urges the simple. To those who lack good judgment, she says, “Come, eat my food, and drink the wine I have mixed. Leave your simple ways behind, and begin to live; learn to use good judgment.” Anyone who rebukes a mocker will get an insult in return. Anyone who corrects the wicked will get hurt. So don’t bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you. Instruct the wise, and they will be even wiser. Teach the righteous, and they will learn even more. Fear of the Lord is the foundation of wisdom. Knowledge of the Holy One results in good judgment. Wisdom will multiply your days and add years to your life. If you become wise, you will be the one to benefit. If you scorn wisdom, you will be the one to suffer.”
Proverbs 9:1-12 NLT
Dancing with the devil
Some of you fear Biden, some of you fear Trump, some of you fear the police, some of you fear the BLM movement, some of you fear the government, some of you fear COVID-19, some of you fear democrats, some of you fear republicans, some of you fear the loss of comfort, some of you fear work, some of you fear not working, some of you fear the loss of control, some of you fear religious men spouting misplaced prophecy, some of you fear your feelings, some of you fear love, some of you fear hate, some of you fear anyone or anything that don’t agree with you, some of you fear conservatives, some of you fear racism, some of you fear bullies, some of you fear being alone, some of you fear being around people, some of you fear economic failure, some of you fear the color of skin, some of you fear anything that you don’t understand, some of you fear freedom, some of you fear communism, some of you fear the unknown, some of you fear the known, some of you fear Revelation and apocalyptic signs, some of you fear quiet peace and Yahweh speaking to your heart.
For the sons and daughters of Yahweh… this verse is eternal, it is forever, it is the reality in which we should learn to operate in and navigate this life, if you as a Christian are (trying) to operate outside of what this verse is saying… you are dancing with the devil and living in crippling fear and uncertainty. When God says “ I, Yahweh, have spoken! “ we should take Him very seriously and fear Him, because even if our opposition doesn’t… they will, and our vindication will come solely from God.
“But in that coming day no weapon turned against you will succeed. You will silence every voice raised up to accuse you. These benefits are enjoyed by the servants of the Lord; their vindication will come from me. I, the Lord, have spoken!”